I spent $30k behind my husband's back

Check out The Rachel Cruze YouTube Channel for life and money tips! http://www.youtube.com/user/RachelCruze?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________________________________ Leigh asks Dave for advice on how to work with her husband on their budget after she spent $30k behind his back. Find A Financial Peace class near you! http://www.daveramsey.com/fpu/classfinder?ectid=70.11.1167 Check out Chris Hogan’s book “Retire Inspired” http://www.daveramsey.com/store/books/retire-inspired-by-chris-hogan/prodD078.html?ectid=70.11.1166 Do you want to take control of your money? Get “The Total Money Makeover” book here. http://www.daveramsey.com/store/books/dave-s-bestsellers/the-total-money-makeover/prodtmmoclassic.html?ectid=70.11.1165 Download the FREE EveryDollar App and start telling your money where to go. http://www.daveramsey.com/everydollar?ectid=70.11.1164 Do you need help with your taxes? Find an Endorsed Local Provider near you! https://www.daveramsey.com/elp/tax-services?ectid=70.11.1163 Need help selling or buying a home? Click the link to find an Endorsed Local Provider in your area. https://www.daveramsey.com/elp/residential-real-estate?ectid=70.11.1162 Do you have questions about investing? Let one of our Endorsed Local Providers help. https://www.daveramsey.com/elp/investing?ectid=70.11.1161 IN THIS VIDEO: Dave Ramsey, The Dave Ramsey Show, Financial Peace University, FPU, The Total Money Makeover, budget, envelope system, emergency fund, baby steps, radio show, debt freedom, EntreLeadership, mortgage, ELP, daveramsey.com, money, finance, economy, investing, saving, retirement, cash, mutual fund, stock market, business, leadership, credit, drtlgi

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1. What if it's a 3,000 used Beamer
2. If she will spend your money behind your back, she will do MANY other things behind your back.
3. but the thing is when you say work together it's always the man doing all the work , like hey women we have a house to maintain, need to save money for other life issues ahead , vacation. it's not fair women always spending the money and over charge and guess what here's comes the man to clean it up and you will look back and see wow look at the history of money you threw away over our life over 300,000 dollars because I'll always bail you out. that money could of when to Mutual Savings stock money , house could have been paid off , vacation trips. I'm sorry I'm tried of it. I'm like you on your own. when I need money I have no one to help me and my wife won't be able to help so. I'm tried of the waste of money that could of gone to better things
4. At first, I thought she intercepted the bills coming in the mail, but paperless billing is probably how she hid it.
5. I would literally be locked up for domestic violence if this was my wife.
6. Sounds horrible. I went through a similar situation myself not too many years ago. Some people no matter the income will always spend it all, like it is some sort of comfort. It's nice to have nice things but when a couple works together to make that happen (even if one is unemployed - I'm sure she contributed) and one starts spending without telling then that is stealing. If no self correction is found maybe you find out who the real person is, I don't know. Sometimes it's better to cut ties when you go above and beyond and allow the person to have some sort of freedom to correct themselves. It's easy to work a job when you don't have the responsibility of paying all the house bills.
7. we discuss spending over $100.
8. she doesn't need marriage counselor, just a calculator.
9. dump the waste of woman
10. I don't blame him for not being part of her foolishness.
11. Forgiveness will be required here.
    They could have paid the debt off TOGETHER and moved on by know and grown from this experience together.
    Marriage is not fair. He is acting like a victim and abandoning her. She feels alone. He also feels alone and betrayed. Man Up!
    Forgiveness is hard but simple. You CANNOT keep score in marriage. Learn and Move On.
12. Wow, he is just answering my question. I thought I was making a wrong decision to leave my girlfriend who is an alcoholic and drug user. I'm glad Dav would do the same.
13. Dave believes that divorce is unavoidable in situations where one of the spouses remains out of control financially, yet almost in the same sentence he says marriage is for better or worse. A simple postnuptial agreement (following a separation) can solve a majority of the concern that one spouse might have about being financially ruined by the other spouse. A postnuptial agreement is a written agreement executed after a couple gets married, or have entered a civil union, to settle the couple's affairs and assets in the event of a separation or divorce. It is normally "notarized" or acknowledged and is usually the subject of the statute of frauds. Separation will suffice. Just an option he never brings up for those who don't believe in divorce, and have a deeper belief in the sanctity of divorce.
14. Dave let her off WAY too easy.
15. I hope I don't have a marriage that involves a spouse that is bad with money 🙄
16. "in stupid and not 'til death do us part" lol
17. I'm not surprised she's from DC
18. Actions speak louder than words. In this situation the trust has been broken and in order to get him on board with doing FPU, he needs to first see proof that she's serious. I'm surprised Dave didn't ask what that $30,000 debt was and why she hid it from him in the first place. Sounds like there are some deeper issues going on here.
19. She is willing to take a step in the right way. Would love to hear Dave reach out to some of these people just to see how they are doing.
20. I wouldn't divorce her over the money if I loved her. But I would definitely hide my money from her